The fear factor

I was just wondering about 'the fear factor'. Does it relate to love for something? The fact of _not_ having the lovable factor creates fear? How does is arise? Why do we entertain it? How did we learn it?

How does a child learn to fear something? The other day a dearest 2 year old who does not feel comfortable with strangers was asked to give me hug in return for her dear 'dora character'. It was so toguh for her. Finally she walked with her scary eyes, hands open, a heart beating like the world was coming to an end, and a mind that must have almost stopped working. She hugged me and waited for me to pull back so that she could get back to receiving her 'dora charater'. After the requested act, she picked her lovable character and wept like something had so totally gone wrong that day in her life. It's just amazing how she reacted to the fear of a stranger. Though she was scared, she still held on to me until _I_ let her go. Isn't that telling that she was also killing the fear factor? Her mind actually did something different... told her that it was not afterall that bad. But why do we still fear even after going through an experience that teaches you that it cannot afterall be so bad?

Maybe the mind loves to stay active and just finds a new fear in the thing it loves.

Shall update this..when I have more clear thoughts...